We all want to have good friends. We all want to have friends who care about us. But often it’s not easy to find friends like that. Sometimes we may even be disappointed by the quality of our relationships.

How can we fix this situation? Well, we tend to look at other people and put the blame on them. We hope them to change and become like what we want them to be. But this approach rarely works for one simple reason: you can’t change other people. Instead, what you can change is yourself. So a better approach is to change yourself rather than expecting other people to change.

Applied to friendship, it means that to have good friends you should become a good friend first yourself. Do you want other people to care about you? Then you should first care about other people. Do you want other people to understand you? Then try to understand other people first.

If you become a friend yourself, you will soon find a lot of good friends around you.

This entry was posted on Thursday, March 5th, 2009 at 2:27 am and is filed under Self Improvement.